Anger in the Age of

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Anger.

Whether misdirected or in the form of cyber-bullying, or through my former articles about stress & anger management, or any of the stories I shared about abuse during my time with STMND, anger is a topic we’re quite familiar with here at CardCastles.

So some of the replies I got today due to my support of another strong woman, Maxine Waters, didn’t surprise me.

chat iconThese may seem like two simple pieces of the internet at first glance. Although I did notice something and have been noticing this over & over play out again & again.
When you look at this from a broader scale, it may be clear to some that this response is the language of hate, and not just mere opinion.

Let’s dive deeper, shall we?

Calling someone like Maxine or myself crazy, from the pedestal that many of these cult followers stand on, is something abusers and controllers, bullies and dictactors have done since the beginning of time. They try to silence or discredit the person by calling the person, “crazy” thus nulling their opinion. Some of the cultists that responded to what I said up there called me crazy too for calling her a strong woman.

That kind of language is something I’m all too familiar with, coming from a cycle of abuse myself. I lived with a family member that used this tactic on both my mother and myself often.

In a society where I think most of us are trying to eradicate the stigma surrounding mental illness, language like this is a double-edged sword. Let’s face it, though. People that could support this regime don’t exactly care about anyone—not even themselves.

This is a pattern I’m seeing in all of these people that support this regime. They appear brainwashed, are usually not of high intelligence, and have abusive and/or racist tendencies. They use religion as a means to hide behind and defend their hideous actions. It is sickening to watch and to say the lot of that are sane in this country are tired of it is far beyond an understatement.

This type of silencing and spiritual and psychologial and even generational warfare they have begun will have lasting effects for generations to come.

Despite them and their abuse,

I am telling all of you with a heart and soul left in your body to speak up now and condemn all of this madness every single time you see it.

Now is not the time to be silent and respectful anymore.

We are going through a full blown crisis of epic proportions in this country and we have to protect our youth while uplifting each other. It is a damn war zone out here with all of this violence happening and such hate in the air.

Sleepy Sundays: Branches

These two patterned designs are part of a set of four, of which the last two are incomplete. Some gap of time has gone by since I last got to work on custom patterns or tile templates. What surprised me was just how relaxing it was after a stressful week!

What’s brought you a sense of “calm” lately?

Have a peaceful Sunday!

Sleepy Sundays: Coping

This Sunday I’m going to switch things up a bit since a main part of my work space is absent.

My laptop died/went quietly over the last week and I can’t put out any new art without my art software.  So, things around here will change a bit but I’ll save the rest of that for an uncoming update.

Since a lot of the people I love in my life, mostly close friends, have all been dealing with some form of loss—

I became inspired by them.

 

One lost a husband, another her true love, another a mother, another a brother, another, her father.

What I’ve taken from sudden loss of people we love is that somehow, someway eventually we find an inner strength to cope.

It’s like some strange inner force although only a small wave at first, pushes us along the way and tells us to keep going. Perhaps it has to do with the loved one themself, because we know in our hearts it may very well be what they wanted.

Those thoughts inspired this song. We’ll just count it as my art for today until I get all that back up & running again.

Has a friend recently inspired you? 

Have a peaceful Sunday!

Sleepy Sundays: Spring Step

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When we have a scattered mind due to the stresses of life, sometimes a little outside time can do us a world of good. Fresh air has its way of waking up the mind, body, and spirit. The beginning of spring is the perfect timing for such meditation. Nature itself is in some form, waking from a long slumber. There are plenty of sights and sounds to admire. That’s exactly what inspired this art. Go on and give it a try yourself! Snap some pictures while you’re at it, you might be delighted by the results.

Do you enjoy the outdoors when you have the time?

Have a spring-step in your Sunday!

Sleepy Sundays: The Lounge

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Sometimes we all just need to relax. In today’s world, most of us lead busy lives. Based on common knowledge, many juggle parenting, work, side-work, relationships, friends, housework, etc, etc. (Not necessarily in that order.) We may often feel we “don’t have enough time” or “have too much work to do” but the truth is, we need to nurture our happier, fun side as well.

“Make time for love’s sake. Make love for time’s sake.”
Daily Daydream by DaydreamsInWonderland

So, after all the mess of the week, sit back, relax, and enjoy some art & music with me. (As per Sunday tradition here.) The video featured below is from a new artist that goes by the name of Banks. Since I get a lot of compliments on the music I post here, I figured I’d feature her. The song is haunting & beautiful. Hope you all enjoy!

How do you relax?

Have a musical Sunday!

Grief Management

In Between

A large number of men and women have dealt with or known someone who has gone through some shape of grief in their lifetime. Grief and depression can affect a person’s life negatively and hinder many processes that lead to growth. In order for one to move forward in life, one needs to grow, right?

To those reading this that may be dealing with some portion of grief, take solace in knowing I’m going to offer you some help.

Before reading on, read this first:

The following are some tools I’ve learned over the years. Please do not replace these for medical advice; especially, if you are indeed in crisis. My only intention is to pass on some knowledge that may be of help when you are having a particularly difficult time dealing with grief.

  • Instead of putting such emphasis in your mind about the day a person died, remember their birthday instead. Celebrate their life instead of mourning their death. For women/couples that may have suffered a miscarriage, remember the day you found out you were pregnant rather than a time that brings you pain.
  • Go though the boxes. This one is tough, I have to admit, but you’ll feel better afterwards, trust me. To anyone that’s lost someone, you know what this means. I don’t have to explain it. Sometimes, it’ll do you some good to get rid of some of the things that aren’t important too. I know that is also difficult, however, one needs to realize that deep down, you know this person will not be upset with anyone for getting rid of the unimportant items. Part of moving through grief is letting go. Holding onto too many objects can become unhealthy (ask a therapist) and can develop into a condition known as hoarding, which is a serious mental illness.
  • Do something you enjoy, preferably outside. The outdoors are the best place you can be as you’re moving through the grieving process. Take a vacation, go out with a friend; take a walk. Anything to keep yourself from constantly dwelling on sadness.
  • Remember the things that bring you joy and participate in them. Go through the motions. Stay active. Listen to music, paint, dance, sing, go see a movie. Whatever brings you happiness, take part in it.
  • It’s okay to cry. Male or female, no matter how young or how old…it’s ok, just let it out. We were given tear ducts for a reason. You may just feel a little better afterwards.
  • Build a support system. This can be so important. Even if your support system is only one or a few people. It’s essential to have someone to vent your feelings to. This could be a close friend, family member, therapist, or all three. You shouldn’t be alone in times of grief. Isolation is a dangerous thing when you are going through a grieving period. Isolating one’s self could turn grief into depression.
  • Write your thoughts down. (Optional) This can be a form of therapy. Getting your thoughts out of you and onto paper is an excellent tool for releasing pent-up anxiety.
  • Make peace with yourself and with the departed. If there were any grudges held, arguments had, resentment, or just plain issues before this person’s death…make peace with it and let it go. Forgive them, forgive yourself. You can even write a letter of forgiveness.

The above mentioned tools are just some of many. These are just the highlights of what has helped me the most. As a person that has lost many, mourned severely, dwelled, and later sought healing, you could consider me somewhat of an expert on the subject. However, I remind you not to mistake my helpful tools for medical advice. Although, some have said I’d make a pretty excellent grief counselor…

This post is intended to be thought of in conjunction with my Stress Management post (hence, the similar wording and format.) Think of it as a part two of sorts.

Stress Management

Dancing CloudsMost of us as human beings deal with some form of stress on almost a daily basis. A good portion feel this burn more than others. Rest assured, I’m here to offer some help on the subject.

My key readers consist of a group of mothers and writers. A portion of you may not fall into that bracket. However, I feel the following may be a substantial relief to all of you.

Stress can come in many forms but, it all feels the same. Stress could spike our blood pressure; make us feel nauseated, fatigued, and sometimes (in a worst case scenario) cause a panic or anxiety attack. From a medical and psychological standpoint, there are many ways you can deal with this.

The following are some tools I’ve learned over the years. Please do not replace these for medical advice. Especially, if you are indeed in crisis. My only intention is to pass on some knowledge that may be of help when you are having a particularly stressful day.

Turn off all devices. Electronic and otherwise. Minimal noise and distraction will already alleviate about 50% of your stress.

Find a place that brings you peace & go there. When you feel your blood pressure start to rise is clearly the best time. (This may be harder for my Mommies reading this since you can’t always just “walk away”. In that case, I suggest doing this at your first free moment.)

Clear your head. This can be difficult but once you know how, you can do it at the drop of a hat.

Do something you enjoy. With our many jobs/occupations, this can again be difficult. Make a list of activities. It can start with something as simple as listening to music & end with something as complex as painting that spare room. If it relaxes you, do it!

Give yourself alone time. We all need this at times. Even if we don’t realize it.

The above mentioned tools are just some of many. They’re just the ones that have helped me the most. Being a Mommy and the many skills that requires (nurse, teacher, therapist, organizer, janitor, etc. All Moms know exactly what I mean.) along with a writer and an artist; juggling the three can get quite stressful at times. My main advice to all of you along with these tips is simply to relax. Not to take yourself so seriously all of time.

Now, I just have to nail taking my own advice. 😉